should i cut my losses and just leave him

[wanda]

i'm trying to figure out why he is on a teen porn site. the girls are according to the site all 18 or over, but it's still label as a teen site with headings such as "teens like it bg" etc. does that mean he may be a pedophile? this is scary.

[NewHope10]

Hi Wanda...

I think this particular topic may be difficult for some to talk about - or even think about. PA is not the easiest thing to talk about (which is the reason I am here...to talk about it openly) - but I think that teen-P is even more so tough to talk about.

Perhaps people don't know the answers...because I sure don't! I don't know if this is a "path" that some PA's head towards during their "using" days or not???

I'm sorry...I do not have any words of wisdom for you. Again...aside from people advising that underage P is illegal - I'm not sure how many people would open up with their thoughts on this. It is such a delicate topic.

IMO...you are so brave to bring it up! For those who know their H has looked at teen-P...you have let them know that they are not alone. Just know my dear...you are not alone either.

My thoughts are with you...

[Life-lies-trust]

Wanda,
The other problem with teen porn is that some people by law must report this. You need to be careful who you talk to. I would advise you to find a therapist and maybe a lawyer that you can confide in.
I feel so bad for you because you are in a really difficult place to have to deal with life from.

[dave42]

Here is my take on the teen issue. As a lifelong porn addict, I can tell you that LOTS and LOTS of sites advertise teens. Remember, teens can be legal if they are 18 or 19, and a lot of the participants are actually older--in their very early 20s. I hope that that helps. In other words, I can say with total honesty that although I'm a recovering porn addict, and I am recovering from addictions to prostitution and strip clubs, too, I am not a pedophile and yet in my addiction I went to MANY, MANY, MANY websites that advertised "teens." That is not to say that there aren't pedophiles who are porn and sex addicts, but I just think it's important to put the "teen" label in perspective. With porn sites "teen" is almost the equivalent of "new and improved" for in a supermarket's soap and cleaner aisle.

[astander]

wanda, I know how you feel. My husband looks at the same stuff, it's is "favorite." Sites with extremely young looking girls with very small breasts, and in general underdeveloped. It makes me want to throw up.

One other thing that he has looked at is so called "nudist" sites. There is one actually that is so disturbing to me, lots of young children on it, but there are tons of legal disclaimers from lawyers certifying that it is not pornography, because the children are not being depicted in a sexual content. It makes me so mad, you wouldn't believe it.