Introducing myself

[youngarmywife]

Hello, everyone. I just found this forum today but have already spent a few hours reading.

I am only twenty-two years old and I have been married for five months to my PA. I am also three months pregnant.

There is so much I want to say and so many questions I want to ask. I only have time for brief introductions right now but I would like to start a journal soon. The main thing I am looking for is somebody to listen. I feel very isolated and like I can't seek help in my community because of my husband's job.

Thanks for listening. I hope to get to know you all.

[JenMac]

Hi Youngarmywife!
Welcome! You have absolutely come to the right place! You will find a lot of support here and always a listening ear!
I am sorry for the difficult place you find yourself in but I am happy you have discovered TTF! Lots of wonderful, wise people here to share your thoughts and struggles with!
Keep coming back!
Jenn

[maggie]

Welcome Young Army wife,

This is a comfortable place to talk about ' uncomfortable ' things.
I have a sister and 3 best friends, but this is a forbidden topic for many reasons.

Posting here, I realized that my crazy, angry feelings of betrayal were normal.........that is as normal as possible, when your life partner is in another room staring at other women!

Number #1..... It is his problem. He is the one who go involved with something twisted and addictive. It effects you and anyone else he is close to, but it is his problem.

You can find many SOs here to help you deal with this, but you need to take care of yourself. Don't let his problem become yours. Eat healthy, exercise and socialize with other happy people. Do not let p, isolate you as well as your partner.

[youngarmywife]

JenMac and maggie, thanks so much for replying to me and making me feel welcome. It already helps so much just to know that there is somebody else out there.

[JenMac]

Glad you are here YAW!
Keep coming back!
Jenn

[Sonomette]

Heya YAW!

My hubby was in for years and years... nice to see some fellow military people around here! The struggles are often the same as civilian life, but oh so different, too. I COMPLETELY gotcha on that one.

This is a great place to be, and everyone here knows how isolating and frustrating this problem is. I'm glad to hear you're starting a journal, and hope that you check out other people's journals too. They might help you feel less isolated. :)

Congrats on the pregnancy! How are you feeling?

[sonoma]

hey welcome to the site! there is my SO right above me ^^^^ and she is FAR superior to me in her posting skills^:)^

I hope you find some answers to your questions you have been looking for, I know we both did and we haven't been members for very long at all. hope to see you soon! take care :)

[youngarmywife]

Sonomette, military life is just plain weird. I feel like I live in a parallel universe sometimes, haha. You are absolutley right -- so similar and yet so different! I find myself questioning my sanity for marrying into this lifestyle, having been raised in it. But I love my soldier! :)

Physically, I am feeling really good. I'm about to round the corner into week 14 and my morning sickness is a thing of the past! Emotionally, I am feeling very confused about carrying this baby... But I've convinced myself that it's normal considering the horrifying things I've discovered about my marriage recently.

Thanks again to everybody for the warm welcomes! I'm heading over to start a journal right now. I've been reading about all of you and, again, it's really helped just being here.

[Sonomette]

Lucky! No one told my kiddo that she was only supposed to cause morning sickness for the first trimester... and so it lasted until I actually HAD her. Of course, that was a taste of things to come-- she still is strong willed, independent and fiery. I have no idea where she got that from. :P

Glad to hear you're starting a journal. It'll be a really positive thing for you.

Does your H know about this site yet? He might get some value out of it too... if he's open and willing. :)

[youngarmywife]

I have told my husband that I am on the site and he is very supportive of me being here and sharing with / learning from you all. He has expressed absolutely no interest in coming here himself. I think he is in a stage right now where he is trying to stop P to stop hurting me, but not because he sees it as something he needs to correct in order to be better as a person. He may come around eventually but for now I doubt you'll be seeing him any time soon.

Also, Sonomette, bless your heart, morning sickness is the WORST. I don't know how you did it! And thank you more than I can say for the message you sent me.