Hello TTF, from TrueBlue

[TrueBlue]

I'm the wife of a PA.

We have struggled through cycles of discovery and denial and promises to quit and the eternal question of WHY?

Last Thursday I walked into the room to find my husband mb to p. It was a huge slap in the face, because I had deluded myself into thinking that it had stopped.

There was a confrontation, and he told me that it was becuase I was sleeping and he didn't want to wake me, that it was stupid and he was sorry and it wouldn't happen again. Standard lines, I think.

So he asked me to delete the browser from the computer so that only games could be accessed. I didn't think that would be best, becuase the kids watch Dora and other kid-friendly shows on netflix on that computer. So I said if he wanted me to set up the parental controls, I would do that, less work and less permanancy. I still at that time thought it was a one-time slip up.

So, long story short, when I was setting up the parental controls, I found all kinds of p in the browser history and cookies. Not a one-time thing =((.

So we had some long discussions, and I wrote a letter to hubby about what I needed from him to believe his sincerety, and we are moving forward from here.

Side note: just reading posts on this site has already given me hope and comfort that I never thought possible after the heartbreak of discovery- THANK YOU to the makers and contributers.

[Crisodian]

TB,
Welcome to TTF. I am the wife (SO) of a PA in recovery now for almost a year. You will find plenty of support and suggestions to help you on your journey to find a path for healing for yourself, and for your husband, should he choose to join us here as well.

I recommend starting a journal, whether here in the Partner's Forum, or for yourself as a means to vent the emotions that come from PA recovery as a partner. It sounds like you and your husband are already taking steps towards a path to recovery.

I hope you find a path to peace, and once again, welcome to TTF.

~C~

[JenMac]

Welcome TrueBlue!
While I am sorry for your discovery and the place you find yourself in, I am happy that you have found your way to TTF. This site has been such a blessing to me and my H.
My discovery was almost 5 months ago and it has been quite an emotional journey since. This site has given me so much support and knowledge and a place to vent my feelings. It is truly a Godsend!
Come here often, read, join in when able and learn! It is a place where I can feel confident to share and know I will not be judged. I don't feel that way anywhere else in this situation.
Take care of you!
Jenn