Desperatley in need of help

[TGC]

My wife has caught me again.
i think this time she will through me out.
Theres no way I can move on without her or the kids.
Can anybody help

[TheLlama]

Have you had support from others when trying to stop before? Or have you been trying to stop on your own?

Breaking the addiction is nearly impossible on your own. I tried for 10 years, before coming here 2 days ago.

It's important for your wife to understand the nature of an addiction, and that in order for you to stop, you need her support too. Have you seen the "Journals for SO's" section of the forum? She can vent her frustrations here too, if you show her this site.

And welcome. I'm only new here, but already I can say that by coming here, you've made the right choice.

[WifeOfNewLifeMan]

TGC-

Perhaps you should start with a summary of what brought you here. Then tell us what you are willing to do to kick this addicition. Are you willing to stop now that you might lose everything? I won't wish you luck because you don't need luck. You need hard work and dedication.

TTF is a good start and people can point you in the right direction for where to go next. The key thing you need to do is take action which can include counselling and recovery groups/12 step programs.

You can quit if you choose to, you just have to want to.

[65Ford]

WONLM is right, you have to want to quit.

If, as you say, you can't go on without your wife and kids, well,you have your answer.

I always thought I "needed" p. But it turns out I really NEED my wife and kids. I was living a dual life, trying to have my cake and eat it too. But when the day of reckoning comes, and it will (or has, for you), and you put both "needs" on opposite ends of the scale, you'll know what you have to do.

That doesn't necessarily address how she is feeling at the moment, but every journey begins with one step. Then go and read the SO journals. All doubt will be removed that you are doing the right thing.

[Benedict]

Spend some time thinking through the costs of p addiction and the benefits of quitting. Write them down (in your journal). You have identified the bigg one....losing your wife and kids. But there are others as well. Spend some time listing them all and keep them in your mind. Will really motivate you at those difficult times....
Best wishes
Benedict

[maggie]

Posting here is solid evidence that you want to change.

Please show her that you have signed on to this site for support in gaining control of your behavior and your life.

She is probably devastated, angry and shocked.

Apologies and promises aside; show her that you researched this addiction, that you are beginning to see the harm and pain it causes in a loving relationship, and that you are committed to change.