The bright side?

[wanttochange]

Hi everybody en TTF, this is my first post and I want in first instance say THANKS for this resource, for the time used to create it and all the loving persons who read, write and learn from the experiences from the community, now I know I'm not alone with my problem, that are people around the globe who feels and need the same comprehension and guide as me. God bless you all. Ok, Hi, I am a 35 year old married man and the time has come to recognize my SA. I begin to have contact with porn material at the age of 12, since that, my addiction passed from magazines, beta and vhs movies to internet photos and videos. When I was single I had the idea that was perfectly normal be in touch with it due I have not a stable relation. Then when I have girlfriends I used them as a method of learning of "know how". When I met my wife, and I have seen several hours of P, so, I turned her upside down in bed and both were pleased. Right now, have passed 3 years of marrige, and we have very serious sexual problems due my use of P, I don't have desire for my wife, only for view P and MB myself. My wife is sick of that and I am tired of see her suffer for my lack of attention. Right now I want to do whatever it takes to change my behavior, stop telling lies, recognize my problem and do something about it. I spoke to my wife and told her how I feel and what I want to do with my life about it, she supports me and want so much that I can change this situation that for the very first time, she doesn't tells me anything for being in front of the computer reading the posts of the site. As FairyG said in her post, my wife also feels very bad because she thought the reason that I use P is that she was very fat, ugly, not sensual, interesting, not so pretty as other women, and all that -no reasons- she point to herself, ignoring the responsible for that situation it's ME. Thanks for reading me, and I'll be writing how it goes my process, there's a lot to do... Best Regards, WTC. Thanks to all.

[Benedict]

Welcome to the site. There are lots of resources here with ideas for strategies to deal with triggers and urges. Have a look at some of the journals and I recommend starting one yourself. Helpful to keep yourself accountable by honestly recording relapses and progress. It also helps you become more aware of the triggers and thoughts and values.
Good luck,

[wanttochange]

Thanks Benedict for your words, I'll check the resources you mention and start writing the diary today!!!


Keep the strenght for yourself-