Stuck and unable to resolve marrriage problems?

[Disillusioned]

Advice from an online marriage counselor.... I don't know if this will help anyone or not...

Using only ONE LINE, can you make a
6 out of this symbol: IX
I'll get back to that.
I know you have marriage problems.
And your situation probably appears to be very
complicated. Maybe it is. But maybe it's not.
Maybe what's complicated about your marriage is
the way you're analyzing it. Did you ever find a
solution to a problem and realize how simple the
problem was to begin with?
This, by the way, is the value of 3rd party
input. The value of hiring a consultant, for
example, is NOT the information they offer; it's
the PERSPECTIVE they offer. The value is not
their solution; it's that they introduce you to a
NEW way of seeing the problem. From there, the
solution is easy.
I experience this in private sessions with people
all the time. A husband or wife will explain all
the intricacies of their marriage and express
that they feel trapped. "I just don't see how we
can resolve this. We beat these issues like a
dead horse for months. We're not getting
anywhere."
Within minutes I'll respond, "Did you try
approaching it like this..." I do private
sessions on the phone, but I can still "see" the
light bulb turn on in their head. And in our next
session, I'll learn that the issue was resolved,
or that they're on their way to reconciliation.
Now it's not always that easy. Sometimes problems
are complicated. But usually the way we see our
problem makes it more complicated than it needs
to be when in fact an easier solution is just on
the other side of a new perspective.
Let's get back to using only ONE LINE and making
a 6 out of this symbol: IX
Did you try it? Did you get it? If you didn't get
in the first few moments, then you probably won't
get it. Why not?
Because from the moment you tried to solve the
problem, you established a paradigm, a way of
looking at the problem. If you adopted the right
paradigm, then you solved the problem within
minutes. It was easy.
But if you adopted the wrong paradigm, then no
amount of analysis or figuring will lead you to
the answer.
In other words, if you're looking at the problem
wrong, you're doomed to fail. If you see it
correctly, it's a piece of cake.
You see, making a 6 out of the symbol "IX" using
only one line is easy. You just go like this:
SIX.
Sometimes people fail in their marriage not
because of any lack of effort, analysis, or care.
Sometimes people fail because they're locked in
the wrong paradigm.
If you're not seeing your marriage or your spouse
in the proper light, then you won't succeed. And
no amount of effort will change that. The only
thing that will get you different results is a
DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVE. Once you adopt the right
perspective, fixing your marriage can be as easy
as placing an "S" in front of "IX" to make "SIX."