How do you think people react to P addiction & TTF?

[TYC113]

Usually, when addictions are being talked about, we talk prescription drugs, narcotics, cigarettes, and alcohol. Perhaps sex is talked about in there, but most people seem to make jokes about it on television. But I have never heard of anyone talk about an addiction to P. I don't know if people really want to talk about that since so many people watch and pay for it. I have never had any bad experiences with telling people I'm trying to quit P. My question is how do you think most people would react to P addiction and sites like TTF trying to help P addiction? I'm just wondering.

[crusader11]

I think alot of guys will try and downplay the addiction. P has become so rooted in male culture that many of us take it too lightly. Women would probably react with disgust, or at least that's the feeling I get - most of them don't like P as far as I know, and hate that their SO's watch it. That said, if you have a good friend they should be supportive in any case.

[burnedout]

I told my sister a while back, way before I'd ever heard of TTF, and she didn't want to know about it. I told a friend, and he didn't know what to make of it at the time. I think the only other people I've told are my wife and my therapist, and the people in the SAA group I used to go to. At this point, I probably wouldn't bring it up again unless someone else did first. Kudos to you for being so open about it, Ty.

[MrX]

As I've grown and matured, I have learned more and more what is right for me.

I say that because, really, it shouldn't matter what other people thing about PA or TTF. We are all here for common goals, and for ourselves (as well as others) and what others think really is moot.

But like Burnedout said, I don't talk about it. I'm taking care of this problem for me.

I am happy for you, though, that you have had good experiences talking to people about this. Maybe there is hope that PA will be recognized. It would be great if children were warned about it like we warn them about drugs, alcohol and smoking.

[WayFarerNation]

I think the answer to your question follows from the reasons you are talking about P addiction and TTF. If I'm using it as a moral qualifier and indirectly judging other people's behavior, they will become guarded. If my intentions are not to judge the person but instead seek opportunities to help them, then I might bring up my struggle with P and what I've learned from it. I'm not going to be looking for approval for my behavior or anything else like that.

[ocja0201]

Deep inside everyone knows that P is wrong, sometimes it is just a feeling that is quickly shaken off. The less we listen to our conscience the easier it is to ignore it the next time. Lechery to a varying degree is something that everyone is guilty of, but pride manages to convince many of their own flawlessness. All the money being made off our animal impulse for s-x is not enough to silence the truth written in our hearts, but self serving rationalization certainly is.

Truthfully I don't think most people view P to be the problem that we know it to be, fortunately perception in no way changes reality. For all I care the world may think me stark raving mad, I have found a jewel of great value, and I shall sell everything I once clung to in order to possess it.

God Bless,

~J

[exteberria]

I personally don't disclose of the fact that I am trying to get away from p. I usually just make a passing comment about people getting addicted to p if a friend brings it up, and surprisingly I usually get people agreeing with that statement, I even got a guy I know well to say that he thought he was a little bit addicted to p at some stage.

[Disillusioned]

I think it would cause discomfort for most listeners unfamiliar with the battle we have all waged and share our experiences about on TTF. It is personally uncomfortable to discuss, or why would we all be on a site that we value for its anonymity.

I know a few friends I shared with just thought well you've discussed the problem and your h still wants to stay married to you, problem over, go on with your life. I also think knowing that my h is having problems with it makes other women nervous about what might be going on in their own H's life and mind.

I have only told a few people of my involvement with TTF and that it has helped me more than anything else I've tried. My niece-in-law said she might look into it. I hope she does, as she is a devoted SO and her h has a long history of P and other faulty thinking.

Good question, Ty. Hope no one minds an old SO responding.
disillusioned