Danger to SOs when they are hurt by a PA from author Laurie Hall

[Disillusioned]

From author Laurie Hall “An Affair of the Mind” warning; some religious content
If You Were Woman Enough...."
"What does this have to do with the wife of a man involved in P? Plenty. First, there's a temptation to prove herself. A woman whose husband wants to be with an imaginary woman or a hooker more than he wants to be with her feels like a failure as a woman, a lover, and a companion.
Second, she has legitimate physical, emotional, and spiritual needs that aren't being met. Lust is totally self-absorbed. Everything revolves around the needs and desires of the one lusting.
A man who is involved with P is incapable of looking past his own needs to see and meet the needs of his wife. In his selfishness, he sucks out her meager reserves, leaving her nothing to meet her own needs.
Yet, those unmet needs aren't going to go away. Just as Jesus' body was dying for food after His 40-day fast, her body is dying for unfulfilled s-x, not the degrading quickie stuff her H learned from P. Just as Jesus longed for the loving companionship of His Father, her soul longs to have her husband be a loving companion, not someone who's going to think of her as a plaything. Just as Jesus deserved to have others recognize His value, she may be dying to be affirmed rather than viewed as a tool to be compared, criticized, and manipulated.
Along about now, when she's good and hungry, the temptations come. What's the bait? Unmet physical needs, unmet emotional needs, unmet spiritual needs. The hook is to prove yourself--prove you're attractive, prove someone can love you, prove you're worth it--because if you don't take care of number one, who will? You know what everyone's saying, don't you? If you were woman enough, he wouldn't need anyone else, so why not prove it?
Human nature is always tempted in the same ways. And when the hook and bait didn't work with Jesus (because He knew who He was and whose He was), they often work with a woman who's desperate to shore up her shaky self-esteem by proving to herself and others that she's "woman enough" (because she doesn't have a clue who she is and she's desperate to feel she belongs to somebody---anybody)."

[cvanden]

I've certainly felt that way.

[bethann27]

From author Laurie Hall “An Affair of the Mind” warning; some religious content
If You Were Woman Enough...."
"What does this have to do with the wife of a man involved in P? Plenty. First, there's a temptation to prove herself. A woman whose husband wants to be with an imaginary woman or a hooker more than he wants to be with her feels like a failure as a woman, a lover, and a companion.
Second, she has legitimate physical, emotional, and spiritual needs that aren't being met. Lust is totally self-absorbed. Everything revolves around the needs and desires of the one lusting.
A man who is involved with P is incapable of looking past his own needs to see and meet the needs of his wife. In his selfishness, he sucks out her meager reserves, leaving her nothing to meet her own needs.
Yet, those unmet needs aren't going to go away. Just as Jesus' body was dying for food after His 40-day fast, her body is dying for unfulfilled s-x, not the degrading quickie stuff her H learned from P. Just as Jesus longed for the loving companionship of His Father, her soul longs to have her husband be a loving companion, not someone who's going to think of her as a plaything. Just as Jesus deserved to have others recognize His value, she may be dying to be affirmed rather than viewed as a tool to be compared, criticized, and manipulated.
Along about now, when she's good and hungry, the temptations come. What's the bait? Unmet physical needs, unmet emotional needs, unmet spiritual needs. The hook is to prove yourself--prove you're attractive, prove someone can love you, prove you're worth it--because if you don't take care of number one, who will? You know what everyone's saying, don't you? If you were woman enough, he wouldn't need anyone else, so why not prove it?
Human nature is always tempted in the same ways. And when the hook and bait didn't work with Jesus (because He knew who He was and whose He was), they often work with a woman who's desperate to shore up her shaky self-esteem by proving to herself and others that she's "woman enough" (because she doesn't have a clue who she is and she's desperate to feel she belongs to somebody---anybody)."

That sums it up perfectly. I have and still do feel that way.