Love (Porn) at first sight

[TomHaveHadEnough]

I assume that this has been written a gazillion times but I feel the need to open myself and let out my thoughts on the open.

So I don't want to sound nostalgic but do you remember when you started to watch porn? The exciting feeling of doing something forbidden, something that made your blood pumpin'?

I can still remember the images from the early days (when I started watching porn), they are stuck on my retina - thankfully they are not as vivid as they once were. From time to time over the years there have been periods when I have sought the "porno from the past" and if I found any of it it didn't give me any of the pleasure I hoped for.

Porn is like a drug, once you start using it you want more and "better stuff". Their side effects will always outdo any of the so called advantages with it. If you are using porno then you are seeking for something that you miss in your life but the sad part is that you won't find what you are looking for, it will only get worse.

This day I have started to get thoughts like "I just need a few minutes of porno" but I have to say no. I can't let pornography control my life. Today I'm alone but the day I end up in a relationship I don't want to hurt my partner and our relationship, nobody deserves to have to compete with pornography!

Thank you for being here guys. Keep up the good work :)

/Tom

[blindside]

Thanks for posting this. To add to this I think the need for affection/love and the need for sexual intimacy are very closely linked in our minds. I would go so far as to say that they are two sides of the same coin. Most of the guys on here are in relationships, married or just out of relationships. As someone who is single like yourself, I think the dynamics of porn usage are slightly skewed. I know I have used porn to alleviate the feelings of loneliness numerous times.

[TomHaveHadEnough]

Thanks for posting this. To add to this I think the need for affection/love and the need for sexual intimacy are very closely linked in our minds. I would go so far as to say that they are two sides of the same coin. Most of the guys on here are in relationships, married or just out of relationships. As someone who is single like yourself, I think the dynamics of porn usage are slightly skewed. I know I have used porn to alleviate the feelings of loneliness numerous times.

I have also tried to "alleviate the feelings of loneliness numerous times" with pornography, but it never helps - except for that particular moment. From time to time I have also tried to find any signs of love (wrong place to look I know) in pornography but it's just perverted and sick, there's no love in pornography - no happily ever after. It's just sick orgies..

Another thing is that I can't understand that there are couples who watch porn together, if they need porn for their sex life then something is seriously wrong - at least that's how I see it.

[exteberria]

I agree with the other posts. When I was young and struggling with girls at school, I also strangely saw porn as a substitute. It wasn't long before I was dating, and I realised porn was ruining my chance at a healthy and successful relationship.
I know my current girlfriend would not for a minute except the old me.