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About LinkBacksI am a addict this I know. I have a wonderful wife and kids. I feel if I continue I will lose her. I love her deeply, but for some reason this has taken ahold of me. I have never cheated on her, but she feels looking at porn is cheating!
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- 01-31-2011 03:30 PM #1
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Can I do this alone??
- 01-31-2011 03:53 PM #2
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Hey Deadmonkey!
I am an SO here along with my H Mac. Your wife is feeling what many of us have felt/are feeling. Here is a link to an article that may describe to you what your wife is experiencing at this time.
Trauma to SOs
I know when my H started to read here that so many of us felt exactly the same way, it helped him to understand how I was feeling.
Hope this helps!
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- 01-31-2011 04:06 PM #3
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dm,
Originally Posted by deadmonkey 
Most of the SOs I know, both here and IRL (in real life!), would agree with your SO on this point.
It's a matter of the heart and the mind.
Read up, knowledge is power! You CAN WIN.
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"Sometimes it is not enough to do our best; we must do what is required." - Sir Winston Churchill (1874-1965)
- 01-31-2011 04:25 PM #4
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I felt the same way as you. I didn't understand how my wife could equate the mere looking at pictures with adultery, but she did. I understand now that she was right. I wish I had understood it years ago. Maybe I never would have gotten involved with this stuff. By the time I understood that looking at porn is cheating, I was already hooked. Originally Posted by deadmonkey
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- 01-31-2011 04:28 PM #5 loving TTFI am:happy
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Phil,
Is she aware of you on this site seeking help? Did she understand the addiction?
- 01-31-2011 04:32 PM #6 loving TTFI am:happy
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No. Originally Posted by deadmonkey
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- 01-31-2011 04:41 PM #7 loving TTFI am:happy
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Mine either Phil. How long have you been porn free?
- 01-31-2011 07:08 PM #8
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You can do it. I believe in you.
- 01-31-2011 07:31 PM #9 loving TTFI am:happy
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Today is day 61, by the grace of God. Originally Posted by deadmonkey
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- 01-31-2011 07:46 PM #10 loving TTFI am:happy
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Awesome, great....It is day two for me
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