I was thinking, while driving tonight about the difference between pleasure and happiness. I think this is important, and that is especially applies to PA.
Pleasure is temporary, but rarely leads to lasting hapiness and contentment. When we are addicted to pleasure seeking, we are rarely happy, unless we are getting the pleasure we are after all the time, which is usually just about impossible.
When we don't get the pleasure we have trained ourselves to desire, we are unhappy and discontent. Ironically, getting more pleasure can often lead to more unhappiness from my point of view. The more you pleasure seek, the less happy you are when you don't get your fix of whatever it is you want.
Porn offers us quick pleasure, but it's not something that we can ever have and hold onto. It is fleeting and temporary, and leaves us wanting more and more.
Learning to cultivate lasting happiness and contentment is one of the keys to recovery from my experience. Just thought I would share my revelation in case it helps anybody else out there
Of course this doesn't mean pleasure is bad, or that we can't enjoy a nice meal, a movie, or treat ourselves from time to time, but it does help me at least to think about this...
Pleasure vs. hapiness -
08-12-2008, 10:50 AM
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