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    by Published on 12-08-2014 01:53 AM
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    Feels like an important post given that it is my 5000th post on TTF.
    Oh my, that is actually a little scary in itself! ...
    Published on 10-16-2014 01:27 AM
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    This is a wonderful post originally posted by our member WisingUpSlowlsy to another partner of a PA, Marion.

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