[Searching4peace]

I agree with all of the above about how to find the files...but what concerns me is I started out doing these same things years ago...confronting him being devistated by what I saw...these pictures were burned into my brain and I fear will never go away. I worry about how healthy it is to "encourage" snooping and tracking the pa's actions. I agree they need to be held accountable, but I know what an obsession keeping them accountable did to me. I think that a huge step in the recovery and growth of a spouse or significant other of a pa is to be able to understand that it is not your responsibility to hold them accountable. It is not your job to keep them in check. Does anyone else understand where I'm coming from on this...?