[jasmine]

Well, AJP, I am of the "porn generation" as well, and it makes me so happy to see that others my age realize how bad it is. There was a time in my life when I thought guys that didn't consume pornography did not exist. They were to me what porn stars are to the average porn addict: the ultimate fantasy. In any case, I realized that guys like that could exist (my boyfriend is working on becoming one), and I can say this; if guys think that a girls who allows porn into a relationship is the greatest gift to man, then girls think that a man who doesn't need porn and is satisfied with her is the greatest gift to woman. I just want to say that if you are indeed successful in taking porn out of your future relationships, I would consider you to have acquired a character trait almost universally desirable to women. Deep down, no woman wants you to model her sex life after something you viewed on the internet, not even the girls on the internet.

I am so glad you were able to understand how pornography hurts relationships. There was a time when I did not understand either, until it almost destroyed my own relationship (and me). It is not just that it creates "unrealistic expectations," but it also creates bad expectations. I will tell you this up front that for girls to transform into porn stars it is destructive to their body. Trust me, I am in college, I have done all that: starving myself to underweight BMI, frying my hair to a crisp every morning, dying hair with possibly carcinogenic chemicals, Tanfastic fake bakes, etc, etc. That kind of beauty is not only fake, but destructive to a woman's body. By nature, feminine beauty is self-destructive, and porn has asked that of us. Porn is not only unhealthy for men, but also for women, because they are being asked to destroy themselves at the whim of the pornographic industry... sickening, if you ask me