[dave]

This idea that there are different Daves in me has really helped me through some tough times.
When I feel threatened my little boy wants comforting. But my teen age self shows up and wants sex for comfort. My counsellor helped me see that it is OK to offer comfort to the little boy - I actually keep a teddy bear handy. The teen Dave didn't know that there are other ways to get comfort than sex.
This is a little complicated but the bottom line is that my "here and now Dave" can handle the other Dave's - they don't get to call all the shots for any big periods of time.
It seems that when I am under stress they show up and want attention.
There is also an adult Dave who shows up once in awhile - he has a temper but he doesn't visit too often - luckily.
This insight has helped me to make peace with some of the emotional times I experience.