[IntoTheFire]

Hey guys,

I just wanted to share my thoughts on P and see what everyone thinks (agree, disagree, etc).

Before I joined this message board (which I'm starting to view as my salvation; i am very happy that I found this place) I always heard that porn objectifies women and that it creates unrealistic expectations of a relationship. I really did not ever put much weight into this theory until the last few days. Let me explain.

I have always been of the belief that P is not evil. I think the responsibility lies with the viewer, and I still think that to this day. However, I believe that I am certainly not able to view P and still be an emotionally healthy person. I think it is like an allergy, certain people respond differently, just like how some people can drink 3 beers and easily stop for the night and others cannot.

Back to the main point. I believe I joined this forum yesterday and I deleted all my P yesterday. All of it. There is a survey that this site offers, and I answered yes to a lot of questions, in fact most of them. I know believe that my obsession with P has caused me to view women as objects and caused me to emotionally detach and shut off any sort of intimacy.

I am about to be 22, never had a gf but looked at plenty of P in my lifetime. In fact, probably more varied than most people much older than me. I've seen it all (almost) and I really do not want to be 50 and alone still watching P.

I think I started to get really scared when i preferred watching P to actually talking to girls and socializing with girls.

I knew I had a real problem with P around my late teens and I just now decided to get help. I am trying to work through what my triggers are and why I look at P in the first place. Other events have helped me open my eyes to how I view women and possibly why I am not good at talking to women in general (I have unrealistic expectations of what intimacy really is).

I am truly grateful that this site exists, thank you!