[illumination]

This is all really interesting. I was vaguely aware that porn is generally more 'out' in gay culture (in so far as there is such a thing, and of course not all gay/bi men are part of it). Maybe that's why there are not so many gay men here.

By the way, I read a very strong critique of gay porn in a book called Unpacking Queer Theory (it's a bit academic but a lot of my anarchist friends are into queer politics so I'm interested) where the writer was basically saying that gay porn actors suffer the same kind of oppression and health problems as straight porn actresses. I think gay porn, like other porn, has what one might call a 'hard', obscene and objectified attitude to sex, rather than a more emotional, loving, 'soft' attitude and I think a lot of the aesthetics of the gay 'scene' reflect this.

I know a few non-scene gay men and they find it difficult to meet people for this reason.