[Vilema]

I'm pretty new to this site and I have to confess that this thread is rather discouraging to me personally. All this banter back and forth over semantics and paradigms saddens me greatly. Porn is one of the single greatest destructors of the family (HOWEVER YOU DEFINE IT). Porn, specifically my exhusband's addition to porn, destroyed my marriage, left me in complete and utter depression and in my quest to understand it's hold on my exhusband, managed to ensare me in it's ugly grip.

I care deeply about the family and the obvious deconstruction it's going through and more importantly, porn's role in it. I come here for encouragement, insight and hope. I do not come here to read about right wing, left wing, center of the road, nuclear, same sex, adopted, divorced, never married kind of heated debates. Regardless of your persuasion, can't we all agree that porn is ruining families and ultimately society? I thought were were here to fight porn and it's negative influence on humanity not each other over something silly like semantics.

Who are we serving by expending so much energy bickering about a phrase? I like that the main page addresses the family. It should. It's the main reason, I suspect, that many people are here attempting to find freedom from porn. So, let's celebrate that. Let's celebrate our choice to be free. Let's celebrate our unity of purpose. Let's celebrate this "family" of people committed to helping one another through all the hurt, pain, disappointment and despair that led us (or our loved ones) to a porn addiction. And let's focus on reconstructing our lives to be healthy, happy and porn free.

My fear is that other newbies like myself who come accross threads such as this may be discouraged to the point of leaving this site permanently. I don't think that's anyone's goal here, so I strongly recommend addressing concerns like this privately with the Admin instead of making it a public debate.