[easilytempted]

I think it is normal to not want to dig into issues that we don't understand. They scare us. Most of the time it is easier to pretend that it is not there to a certain degree. I am guessing that is how it is with your wife. Somehow that line of communication needs to be opened, and there needs to be an atmosphere created where you and your wife can lay everything out on the table. Communication is the key to any successful relationship i believe. She needs to know exactly how you feel, and you need to know exactly how she feels. If you will both be honest with each other it takes the guess work out of the relationship. I have found that this has been a huge help to my wife and I.