[tone]

I would like to thank you for your post. I have been on the other side of your pain for many a year, with my soon to be ex-wife on the receiving side and feeling exactly what you described. It took my wife kicking me out of our home, and unfortunately the break-up of my marriage to get me wake up. My wife had reached the point of no return when she asked me to leave. This meant that no matter what I said and what help I got, it was too late.

What I have is an addiction. Like alcoholism or a drug addiction, unless there is a complete acknowledgment that something is wrong and that what a person has is an addiction as opposed to a habit it will always get the best of you. The only lesson I can pass on from my experience is that rather than get to a stage where it is too late for one more chance, you need to shock your husband into admitting that he has a problem that requires professional help and then work through it with him. The alternative is the end of your marriage when you get to a point when you decide to finally look after number one.

Best wishes
Tone