[jasmine]

Be sensitive. If your partner has done his reading, understood your feelings and ultimately made the commitment to quit, chances are the guy feels pretty awful about what he did. As much as you want to remind him over and over again how he gave you ulcers and now you're dying of anemia due to trauma-related blood loss, or how you failed your admissions test to graduate school because of what he did, don't overdo it. He already knows. And he already feels guilty. You need to strike a balance between healing yourself, talking about the things you need to talk about, and keeping a positive outlook for him. It is often very difficult, so you may want to allocate only a certain amount of time dedicated to "the porn issue" every day. Don't talk about it constantly, and don't make him talk about it constantly. Balance is essential in helping him succeed.