[TakingMeBack]

Robber H Rimmer's The Harrad Experiment is a novel that aided in my recovery from addiction. I picked this book off of my shelf because it was labeled "The Sexual Manifesto of the FreeLove Generation" and illustrated with an arousing romance novel cover. Honestly I started ravenously consuming its pages for vivid descriptions of sex because I was feeding my libido addiction. But within its pages a transformation occurred for me. Eureka. This is what sex is meant to be.

Now I am fighting my addiction on the daily. But this book preceded my last day of hating myself while looking at pornography. Those sessions in front of the images have caused me great deal of grief, and I empathize. You should both read this book. Because I believe in love. I am fighting this addiction because I am fortunate enough to have finally found my one true love. It was the sensation of deteriorating the connection held between us, rooted in masturbation to "graven images", that finally brought me to the point of admitting my addiction.

The Harrad Experiment is a sexy book. It contains explicit depictions of sex. But it is not vulgar. Its descriptions serve to introduce the reader through a narrative to the philosophy that Rimmer is illustrating. His utopian ideals include group marriage which is an idea that I am not endorsing. (However if you want a second opinion on it I just recently read an academic essay entitled "The Natural Family" that gave an endorsement based on socio-economics and anthropology) So what I'm saying here is its not an instant fix, but it does have some ideas about making love that may save your relationship.

You need to stop bringing porn into the picture. If you want a better sex life, read the Kama Sutra. It's a spiritual approach to ecstacy, not a corrosion of the act of sensually sharing yourself with your lover. When was the last time that you witnessed love in Pornography (literally: Writings about Whores). Sex without love is nothing more than masturbation; since you have found love... why keep masturbating?

Best of Luck to you both.