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Originally Posted by PAAnon  I believe that I have been attempting to replace the love that I could have had from parents and girlfriends with the fake stuff. |
When talking about the power of the imagination, one of my mentor's told me that "You only spin so much gold a day." In any given moment you have infinite potential for thought, but patterns of thinking are generally driven by the most recent influences of memory. In the psychological field, Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy teaches that irrational thoughts plague the human potential for growth by stunting one's perception of the moment that they are in. If we are using our powerful minds to create internalized masturbatory fantasy, the end result is not only a waste of brilliance, but also a stifling of actual development with others and ourselves. Masturbation is like treading water, all of the muscles are exhausted but the swimmer hasn't ventured forward for all of the time spent thrashing.
Love doesn't exist when we are afraid of offering it to another person. That is the greatest tragedy of the pornographer's trap; their depictions of beauty are caricatures of truth in which women are always willing to diminish their being to accommodate the desires of the viewer. The most destructive aspect of this allure is that the viewer is not required to give anything to justify these empowering returns. Pornography makes the viewers feel powerful while actually draining away their power. We are left feeling inept, because ultimately we did not accomplish what we witnessed, and in this emptiness after the consumption we desire another fix--either in the realm of fantasy or more detrimentally in the actual world. When relationships with women don't come as readily as the women we have witnessed a little bit of our power is sucked away. When we feel uncomfortable (for no good reason) a bit of that confidence is lost and the viscious cycle pulls us back to the worst place we could find ourselves: Masturbating to fantasy rather than fulfilling more wholesome dreams.
After lengthy evidence of the potential of a mere thought to change the universe through the law of attraction, The Secret asks "Are your thoughts worthy of you? If not - NOW is the time to change them. You can begin right were you are right now. Nothing matters but this moment and what you are focusing your attention on."