[jasmine]

I think I remember it being more like her boyfriend introduced her to porn, watched it with her, somewhat integrated it into their sex life. You know what might help, though. What if the porn issue were something you tackled together to get in control. Obviously, he has a problem with porn too, if he thinks sex is all about himself and he makes no effort to please you. That is no doubt a porn-derived mannerism. Sex should not be selfish, especially tackling a porn problem. It should be about mutual satisfaction, even if he takes two minutes and you take five. He should at least be trying to help you in that aspect. That said, it looks like the only sound advice I can give is, "Talk talk talk." Just open the lines of communication.

I know you think the only way to solve this is to leave him. I thought that too once about my boyfriend, but now he has been free for a month, and things are getting much much better. You never know if you can persuade him to help you on this. Chances are, if he really does love you, which it sounds like he does, then he will do whatever it takes to help you. I agree with FoolishMind, I don't think leaving is your only option, or even your best option at that. There are other ways.