[Paul]

Your observation, Coyote Toast, that "we are already addicts" correctly describes my view of the problem. We are damaged in ways that make what may be minimally risky behaviour for someone else, very risky behaviour for us. That allows me to intellectually accept the two positions "MB is normal and OK for most people" and "MB is risky for me and should be avoided" as being non-contradictory. It still leaves me without a viable route to sexual health if I am not in a relationship with someone. Can anyone (male) testify of a long term successful, emotionally satisfying relationship with complete celibacy (neither sexual relations nor MB)?