[HalfPint]

to possibly answer your one question:
Is there a connection between P and just finding oneself drawn to looking at people in real life?

no. There isn't. We are human, and we all (for the most part) have the desire to procreate. Its a natural feeling embedded inside of us. Its a survival tactic have you. We, as a human race, want to guarantee that there will always be a human race. Just like animals do. They feel the need to procreate, its something embedded in every one of us, and in every living being. so naturally we are attracted to others. However, looking at porn turns that attraction into a an attraction of other sorts. Naturally we are attracted to someone because we need them, with porn addiction we are attracted to someone because we want them. It turns procreation, the feeling that you need to get married and have a family, into something disturbingly disgusting. It turns it into a situation where you want that person for self pleasure and nothing else, thus why many men turn to prostitution (which is disgusting in and of itself).

Also to answer your other question:
is there a connection between being addicted to P and being just addicted to sex or sexual thoughts?

yes, and no. There are many people who are just plainly addicted to sex. People who may not even have an internet connection and may not even have or watch porn. But also at the same time, I think anyone (if your not correct me, but as far as I've seen this is true) that is addicted to porn, is addicted to sex/sexual thoughts. its perfectly natural to have a sexual thought, however. That goes along the same lines of procreation, however porn turns those thoughts into something that we feel that we need, and also increases the amount of them that we have and also changes them (i.e. we may start thinking more about what we see on the computer instead of thinking about having a wife or starting a family).

Porn is a gradual thing. It starts off as a question, a thought, an idea, then it transitions into something harder, something "bigger" so to speak. For me, I started looking at catalog and magazine ads, say in the sunday paper or catalogs my mom got for clothing. I would take the pictures and hide them in my room, then soon, that didn't work as well so I started to dig deeper and thats when my brother introduced the world of internet porn. I started looking at really mainly softcore stuff, I really didn't want the harder stuff, but then that changed, it got hard and harder and I kept looking.

Now, Why did I just go through all of that even though it seems it doesn't pertain to the actual question? Because like I said, Porn is a gradual thing. You start out small but work your way up to something bigger (figuratively speaking). Eventually images on the screen don't do it any longer, they no longer hold the potency that they originally did when you first saw them. So, you start wanting more, and more. With some people this leads them to rape, some people it leads them to having sex with as many women as they can, and it can lead to other places. For me it lead to what I call fantasizing. I would think about a woman who I though beautiful (one that I didn't know and didn't look up to), maybe a girl in high school who was out of my league and stuck up (never talked to me). I would fantasize the images and videos that I saw or ideas put in my head with those various women. I've never actually had sex, but I do know if situations where looking at porn lead to having sex and I know situations where its lead to rape.

I apologize if my post is a bit lengthy and I hope that I've answered your questions correctly/helped you out a little bit.