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Originally Posted by Dane 
I so much agree on what you say about being honest and that sex ain't the most important thing in a marrige. Thats an oppinion both me and my whife share.
I know I have a problem! I know I am a PA, but the difficult part is that I don't want to quit.
Or... I would like to have a normal releationship with P, so I could look at it from time to time. Maby once a month or so.. But I guess that this is like alcohol for alcoholics.
One small taste, and you're back in the game.
So I will quit this time! |
I can't speak for all significant others here, but I think the way I feel about a "normal relationship with porn" is that it is very difficult to have. And I don't necessarily mean in an addictive way (but yes, that too). I also mean that it seems human beings are programmed to be aroused by others having sex, and it follows that you may end up masturbating to it as well. I think this is what
really bothered me about porn, that my boyfriend was essentially having sex and orgasming to someone else. I think it's one thing to watch and be like, "Oh, looked how messed up those people are, haha, hilarious," and it is another to actually want to have sex with the girl so bad that you can actually achieve sexual climax. That really hurts.
So, normal relationship with porn, sure, if you can genuinely see how screwed up they are and what they are doing is, and laugh at them because they look so ridiculous, I would love to see my boyfriend do that. I would love to see him watch a porn vid, and think, "gosh, that girl looks so stupid doing that." But that is not what he does. He worships those girls, as if they have a shred of decency or respect for themselves, reeling in the profits at the expense of relationships everywhere. I would give anything for my boyfriend to watch porn and see it for what it really is, but I have a feeling very few people can.