[jasmine]

As a the girlfriend of a recovering PA, I don't really know how valuable I can be, but I can certainly try to provide you with some inspirational motivation that I've given friends before when they needed it:

1. Think of a girl. It can someone you are friends with, someone you have a crush on, or a significant other. Think of your ideal relationship, or think of someone else's relationship you view as "perfect." Does that kind of relationship involved porn or incessant fantasies of other people? Most people don't consider porn an acceptable part of the "ideal" relationship, so you can use that relationship as the gold standard and strive for it.

2. Remind yourself of the man you want to be at all times. It is hard to recover, I think, because men lose sight of their goals, what they want to become. I have to remind my boyfriend all the time of the man he was when we met, so that he remembers what he is striving for.

3. I don't know if this would work for you, but it sometimes helps my boyfriend. Think about other people's opinions of it, especially your role models. Remind yourself what they would tell you, advice they would give or anything to help.

4. Someone above me probably already said it, but I think this has had the single-most powerful effect of any on my boyfriend. Read stuff about it-- articles (see articles section of this site), news, opinions on both sides. After reading about the absolute disasters of relationships people were left with after porn addiction, my boyfriend was hell-bent on change. He saw how men's partners often had their lives destroyed by porn addiction, to the point where they were struggling financially, regretting pregnancies, praying for their own deaths, and loads of other ungodly situations I can't even begin to describe. He couldn't imagine how men could do that to women they loved... and he suddenly saw it in me. If you can relate to the consequences of the addiction, I think it helps a lot.

Finally, I wish my boyfriend had thought of that as a teenager too! How did you come to the conclusion that you needed to quit? I think very highly of you for going through with this, because so many teenagers write it off as "normal" behavior, which it well may be, but that doesn't make it morally sound. Because of that type of thinking, my boyfriend suffered from addiction for eight or nine years. Trust me when I say this, when you conquer your addiction, you will be so proud, as well as an indispensable asset to the male gender. I know many girls that don't even believe P-free males exist, so they just settle for the lesser of all evils.

Again, I give you all my support, and I know you can do this. I also think you have to be confident, so remember that at least you caught it early... some people wait until it is too very late! Good luck