[showmelove]

Yes, I think there is a link between being sexually obcessed in general and looking at p. But I believe it to be mush better to look and fantasize about real women instead of pics. The better you know a woman the better it is to fantasize about her IMO, because then you include more of what is her in that fantazy. I think the major issue with most PA's is that in fantasy land we have complete control over our fantasies. A real women is mush more complex, she comes with a complete package of personality and feelings and issues and behaviours. That is unpredictable, but when we fantasize about pics or strangers, we are in control, they are just objects. PA's are control freaks in that way. I think it has to do with fear of women, seing them as unpredictable and trying to avoid things about women that in real life would be more complex to deal with.

I mean when PA's fantasize to pics or strangers they don't know anything about them except their looks. These "objects" could have a horrible personality. What if the strangers or pic we fantasize about would be like that. We don't know. I think a big part why I was a PA was that I didn't judge girls based on personality, because I didn't know a lot of girls, so all that differentiated girls was looks. Now I'm starting to see the personality dimension, just as Dominus was talking about.