[jasmine]

My boyfriend I think is the same way. He has a pretty high sex drive, and so do I usually. However, you mentioned mercy sex, and I actually think this is critical in order to help someone with this kind of problem. You should definitely try to talk to your wife about having sex more often. Maybe this is just my insecure mind talking, but I feel like, "How can I expect him to stop porn and masturbation if I don't have sex with him enough?" I have used this logic to basically have sex with him whenever he wants, because I feel that him not looking at porn is that important to me. However, sometimes my boyfriend feltthat sex from a partner was not enough. We were having sex at least once a day, usually more, and he STILL looked at porn 1-2 times per week. So I just would be weary that getting your wife more involved may or may not help the porn problem. But you should still talk about it.

The other problem that you should be aware of that could lead you back to pornography is the elusive nature of the female orgasm, especially if your wife does not have as high of a sex drive. I think one of the reasons my boyfriend turned to porn was because he just wanted to see a woman orgasm more than "once in a while." If this is the situation, then having more sex with your wife may leave you wanting more pornography, which could be a problem.

Finally, how do you quell a sex drive? I have one answer that has always worked for me: exercise like you've never exercised before. If you usually run 30 minutes a day, start running an hour and a half AND do push-ups, etc. That way you will be so exhausted by the end of the day that anything to do with sex will be out of the question. It really works, as others have probably noted before. Anyway, that is what I think about the mercy sex thing, hope it helps.