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For your life to change, You need to make changes.

Rocketman, Yes, if you do slip up it would be very easy to think stuff it, im not posting, and begin your whole self loathing process again. So really appreciate your honesty.

But now, I want you to reevaluate your strategy.

I am going to share my strategy with you, and inturn, I would like you to give it some thought and post back and share yours.

My Strategy:

When I am Weakest:

1. Being at home or at work alone
2. Surfing the internet idly
3. Certain Hollywood Movies with scenes that may tempt
4. Mens magazines with provocative pictures
5. Stress
6. Anger

My Countering techniques for the above:

1. Internet filter installed on Home and Work Laptop
2. I dont surf idly, I log on and do what i need to do, then log off.
3. I dont watch provocative movies, only horror, Disney, Family movies
4. Dont get them, dont look at shelves with them either.
5. every human will experience stress, I just learn to calm myself in other activities
6. every human will have arguments and experience anger, again, I just learn to calm myself in other activities

Other Temptations:

1. When I see an attractive women
2. When I see a provocative picture on a billboard or TV advert
3. When I catch a glimpse of a provocative advert on a website
4. Sometimes just a thought would pop into my head

My Countering techniques for the above:

1. Acknowledge the attractiveness in a glance, then continue moving on. I dont dwell, I dont stare. I dont give it a moments further thought
2. same as above
3. same as above
4. Shake my head, say 'no' to myself and focus on something else completely random, like...Batman! or ask myself a question like: do ants have belly buttons!

What Drives me?

1. Me, Wanting to be a better person.
2. Me, wanting to have a better respect for myself
3. My wife, Wanting her to have a better respect for me
4. use my knowledge of 10+ years as a PA to something positive to advise and help others
5. Appreciation of my life, and how much everything is getting better, because I am more content, I focus on what I have, not what I dont have.

How will I stay in control and not fall?

Because I am clear in my objectives, I cut through the BS, and leave all the roses and fluffy bunnys in explanations. Cut straight to the chase.

I have prepared myself for 90% of the temptations that can be thrown at me.
I have filled my newly found free time (previously P time) with constructive and rewarding hobbies, and pastimes.

Overall - I am positive, I stay focussed and I live by the motto of Carpe Dieme!

by Foolishmind
Rocketman's Journal