[Nordman]

Hi Dave,

I'm only thirty-one (like your son),and I wanted to explain very briefly an issue of my father that might be of interest.

But first I must say how sorry I am to hear that your children are struggling with addiction problems. That must be a tough burden for you and your wife to carry.

My father is your age and a doctor at a hospital. he and my mother are divorced since I was 13 and he has not remarried. or been with a steady couple for more than a few years. I know he also have an issue with porn but I don't know how deep it goes, whether he would admit to an addiction or what. I have thought at times that his unsuccessful lovelife could be connected to a porn problem. These are not things we talk about. We never talk about what is diffucult and dark in our lives. And lately I have become distant to him because I feel that he is to preoccupied with himself and not good at listening.

If we could talk about real stuff and not just his garden or his job, and if he had told me that he was in trouble and dealing with it like a man, I would be so proud of him. Whatever achievements at work or in the house can not impress me. Taking the important battles in one's life is what i really difficult.

From a son point of view, I think your children need the 56 year old dave to be in control and be a rock. And that may well include admitting to receiving help from TTF and helping others at TTF. It is a very brave and manly thing to do. We all have trooubles, the main thing is how we deal with them.

Well, I don't know if any of this is true for anybody but me. My dad is fine in most ways, and I love him. i wish you the best of strength: Your children need you, and you are a brave man. Acknowledgement is admirable.

nordman