[dave]

We have been married for 34 years and generally we have plenty of positives in our relationship. I quit P about 15 years ago for a year and now she is keeping quite cool
over my current attempt. " you said you quit before"

At that time I didn't do much in terms about the P side of my problems. Our marriage was in shambles over a number of issues - my anger - sexual differences etc. P was not a big part of the picture then but is has gradually grown.
We have other significant challenges - 26 year old daughter has quit pot recently and is doing well with her 12 step program - she quit b4 things got too bad.
Our 31 year old son is in treatment for drug issues at present and is shaky at best - his life is in a real mess and we invited him to move home for a few months to get on his feet. He has been in treatment several times - pot, opiates now on methadone

So we have a lot on our plates and my partner says she is 'sad' about all of it.
We talk - we even have sex - but it seems she can't give me very much in the way of open support - her emotions are taxed.

I am trying to be patient but when I have a tough day I feel I can't ask for too much support. TTF and prayer have been my mainstays

I'm trying to get to a 12 step meeting but logistics have not worked out yet

I am considering disclosing to a friend but I need to tread carefully - his wife died a year ago and I need to feel him out - how much can he handle?

A day at a time is my goal.
Once our son settles, my wife and I can connect better
Quite complicated isn't it ? I guess everyone is complicated

Dave