[Daniel]

These are in no particular order and please remember they have worked for me, I hope they work for you, take or leave as you see fit.

1. Stay busy. It's the downtime that'll get you. Keep it to a minimum, anticipate when you'll have it and plan to be where the temptation to view P will be difficult.

2. Develop healthy habits. Before P, if there was ever a time, did you have a hobby or sport or favorite thing to do that P has robbed? Go back to this thing and pursue it. It will use up downtime and help put your mind on something else, plus untold myriad fringe benefits.

3. Eye control. As a recovering PA I have found it helpful to not eyeball, body-scan, whatever you call it, women when I am in their presence. Sights can lead to thoughts which can lead to actions that can lead you down.

4. Thought control. "As a man thinks, so is he." Carefully sort through your thought life and discard the destructive ones. This is hard and it's a continuous process. But it is well worth the effort as your thoughts clean up the urge to do P is diminished.

5. From their perspective. This is a new one to me and partially brought forward by my wife: all of the actresses and actors in the P industry -they were at one time innocent with hopes and dreams and parents or at least relatives who wanted them to have a great life. As P users we are shown only the glitz and glam. On the other side is a trail of unspeakable destruction and misery. Thinking that I will perpetuate this if I look at P helps me to not look at P.

6. PC use. I now use a laptop and only in the wide open spaces of living room or kitchen etc. This works for me as a I have a family. For those on their own I suggest not using the PC in private at all if they can do it. Even putting the PC away or not using it at all if possible. I also use Covenant Eyes with my history sent to my wife each week. This is a safety net.

7. Start a journal. This is mentioned and encouraged on TTF thus I won't belabor the point. Watching your progress to stay clean is itself a motivation.

8. Manage your expectations. I was a P off and on for 31 years. Should I expect it to turn off overnight? Probably not. One step at a time. One victory at a time. Mark your progress. Count your days. Keep track of your clean-ness but don't let it be your end-all feel good barometer. Rules, regulations and numbers at the end of the day are not what makes for a clean life and mind. Do the right thing and the numbers will follow.

9. Tell others. If you have a close friend or family member you can really trust, tell them about your PA. The relief I expereinced when I told my friends and family was enormous. P's power is greatly broken down when the veil of secrecy is lifted.