[mamampj]

Thanks, Dave. Thanks especially for the reminder that change takes time. That is one of the things that has been hardest for me. When I first found out about my husband's addiction, I thought, "Well, ok, now we know what the problem is and you can fix it and tada! everything will be perfect."

It has taken years of work for us to get to a place where things are better, and we're still working to make them better still, but they're never going to be perfect: good and loving and honest and real and connected are all possibilities, but perfect doesn't exist in this life.