[dave]

At age 56 our sex life has slowed to about 2x a week
P never affected it that much as my problem was constrained to a nightly habit and our mutual sex life was largely untouched.
We never stopped sex during my recovery. I have been clean from P and M for 4 months.
Our relationship is generally quite strong. Sex has been the area of challenge for us for years - even b4 P entered the picture. I have always wanted more and her less. In a way P filled the void for me. But it bothered both of us. Finally 4 months ago she put her foot down. I decided it was time for a change.
I suffered strong withdrawl for about 2 months and still feel it.
My body wanted sex every day but I was determined to keep it to our relationship.
I can see that some PA may need a period of abstinance - perhaps I should have tried this too.

I still want more sex but that is not reasonable in our 36 year marriage. I am trying to adjust.
At some point I may return to some M but I am taking my time on this decison. For more info on this check out my recent journal entries
But this is where we are at.
Hope this helps to see the larger picture of how different relationships handle this.

Take care.
Dave