[FoolishMind]

Short answer to Why is he so angry? - Because (1) He doesnt think he has a problem (2) He is embarressed, and the easier emotion to put out is anger. It is easier to blame you.

This problem would have started well before he knew you. This is probably a secret he has had for a long long time, that he has turned to at times of stress and depression. The idea someone has asked him to stop it, or embarrassed him about it, is too much, and he will lash out it anyway to save it.

When my wife said she will leave me over this, I did not beg her to stay, I was stone faced and said I will make all the arrangement. This is not what I wanted at all, But in same way felt as if I was saving face. Sort calling her bluff.

It was only once I read her letter to me, I opened my eyes, and my fake world along with all my insecurities came crashing down. I was a complete and utter pratt, yet I carried an existence to the outside world of a professional young man, with a the perfect little home and perfect little life. My wife tore that that apart, and made me realise there was no real substance to our life, because of me.

When time permits, please read around the forums, you will find answers to 99% of your questions. One thing you need to be clear on, is that this is not your problem, nor are you the cause of it. You can not help him fix himself, HE has do it, and HE has to want to do it for HIM. You can of course support him, and show him the doors that he needs to open to get the help.

Take a deep breath, you will need it. But through a lot of effort on both sides, you really can reap the rewards. My marriage over the last 7 months have been better than i could have ever imagined!

Wish you the best of strength.

FM