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Originally Posted by Glass_of_water  We are trying to resume a normal sexual relationship, but I have lost much of my interest. I remember all the things that have happened and I think to myself that the only reason he wants a normal sexual relationship is because he no longer has the p, it has nothing to do with wanting me, he had me all along. That is a hard thing to get over. |
That's sort of what's been bothering me, too. I'm worried that every night we don't have sex it'll be because he's already relieved himself (he's thrown out his DVDs but I still fear he will masturbate without them), and I'm worried that when we do have sex, he'll be wishing he was alone with his DVDs instead. I truly want to help him get used to a normal sex life, but it
kills me to think that he has to work at wanting to have sex with me.
However, I still don't feel right about abstaining. Half because I don't want to punish him (or myself any further—I have needs, too!) and half because I'm afraid that it'll cause him to continue masturbating.
I guess it's a lose/lose situation, really.
Thank you, everyone, for your replies.
