[Glass_of_water]

I don't think it is about punishing the partner, more about both partners recovering.

Many partners have spent so much time being rejected, so much time feeling unattractive and second rate, so much time where their sexual needs were not met because of their partners P addiction and so much time knowing that our partner preferred mb to p than sex with us it is hard to resume a normal sexual relationship.

We are trying to resume a normal sexual relationship, but I have lost much of my interest. I remember all the things that have happened and I think to myself that the only reason he wants a normal sexual relationship is because he no longer has the p, it has nothing to do with wanting me, he had me all along. That is a hard thing to get over.

So I don't think partners do it to punish their husbands, more to let their wounds heal.