[needsmoresugar]

Hi everyone. I'm a new member, having just discovered my partner's PA at the beginning of the week. It was excrutiating at first, but I am getting through the pain and I am ready and willing to support my boyfriend through his recovery.

However, I'm uncertain of how to handle our own intimacy right now. I've seen on a few different threads mentions of limiting all sexual activity for a period of time, but that seems counterproductive to me... as if you're punishing him for his habits. I don't want to punish him, I want to help him.

Because he was satisfying himself several times a week, our own sex life was very slow. I think that without that other outlet for satisfaction, he will have more interest in being with me. I don't want to him to become frustrated, upset, or resentful, or cause a relapse, if I deny him what should be his only other outlet—myself.

Can immediately continuing our own sex life hinder his recovery in any way?

For the record, he isn't addicted to sex itself, but to the visual stimulation porn provides (and I have made suggestions on how we can fulfill that need together).

Thoughts or advice?