Welcome
First thing is that there is nothing that you can really do to fix your husband, he has to want it for himself.
I know the feeling...I have read so many books about porn addiction and sex addiction since I found out 85 days ago. I am a control freak and thought I could "control" this situation. I have learned that I can only control myself and my responses.
With that said, there is a lot of help on this forum to help understand and answer questions.
A good place for you to start is to write a letter to him telling him how you feel, how this hurts you and also that he should do this for himself. There are threads on here about writing that letter. For some the letter has been a big eye opener for the PA and has helped them to go after change. Also maybe you can encourage him to join this site. There is so much support on here for PA
Big thing is realize you are not alone. This is the hardest thing I have ever had to deal with. You can read about my story at
My introduction Hope Phul's Journal
My husband has been completely p & mb free for 85 days. He is doing an online course and seeing a counselor. I am so proud of him. Despite his victories, I am going through my own recovery process! I have good days and really hard days. It gets easier but it is still very challenging!
Best of luck to you!
Thinking of you
C
