Was just reading your post as a guest, and literally heard you crying out here.
Read my post that I made a few days into my journal:
The truth is painful - but required
Its so tough LM, but this is the process. You have to be strong. Just as it is us as PA's who have done this to our partners, it is us that can rebuild their strength in us. I D myself for so long, but i gritted my teeth so much, I wanted her to tell me and let it all out.
She must not bottle it all up inside. Prepare yourself and ask Storm, what she is thinking, what she is remembering, It will hurt, im warning you, it really will, but it will make her feel better letting that you keep understanding how she felt. Through this, and your constant changes your are making, IT WILL GET BETTER.
Deep breath now, suck it all in, and remember Storm needs you to be her strength now ok?
You knocked her down, you CAN build her back up.
FM