I can identify with you saying you wouldn't stay with a man like that about your friend's husband. That is exactly how I feel and is written in my journal too.
We always feel sorry for those who are in a crap situation which leads us to wonder what we would do if it were us, and we usually assume we would dump someone. However, when it comes to our turn, we can't actually do it.
The times I have sat angry, wondering how I could let someone treat me this way, but I'm still here. Although I haven't actually filed for divorce, I am in limbo with it.
It's one of the biggest dilemmas ever, do I stay with someone who does this to me? Or do I try to get back and keep what we had (as we all had something in the beginning).
A lot of us here feel your pain, so don't feel alone in this. Just knowing there is someone else who understands is a great comfort.
I think you should read some posts as S4Peace suggested, see where others are at in their journey, and don't be afraid to post in the topics either - even if it is somebody's journal, as all posts are helpful to each party.
Right now you will perhaps still be angry, and shaking too. It's no good me saying this will pass as some of us are still like this after a long time. Every story is different, but we're all here for a common goal. Have you let your partner know about this site yet? I hope he joins, and I hope you stay too and get the support you need
