I have come to realize that for some it seems overwhelming to read some of the So's journals and posts, because there are a lot of us that are working to make the relationships stay together...But I really want to emphasis that there is a fine line for us all...what is right for us may not be right for you. We would never say you should leave, him, or you should stay...unfortunately it's something you have to decide for yourself. I can recommend though that you educate yourself on the topic of PA, which the reference tab of this site has a lot of information...read through a lot of the Rated PA Journals...the ones with stars next to them...they have a lot of information on the perspective of the PA...and the same for the SO journals...this might give you some insight as to how to begin dealing with your personal situation...I dunno if you have started a journal of your own, but I recommend doing so because it helps us to learn more about your situation and gauge our responses accordingly....when it comes down to it...we've all been there...we've seen it all at some point...we've gone through it all...we all have different perspectives on it too...so you have a great wealth of knowledge to draw from with this site.
The truth is painful - but required Long walk to freedom - Vorlan (Ben)'s Recovery Journal Journal of Cmperry Abbie's 5yr story.... Searching4peace's Journal as a wife of a PA