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Originally Posted by Abbie  This really does capture what happens, it also lets us partner's know that we are right. Which is not to be right in a self-satisfied way, but to know we are on the right track to understanding what is happening, and trust in our own feelings and thoughts.
Although it is hard to read what you wrote, it does help. |
I have to re-quote this because I need to remind my own brain that I am not crazy, psychotic or paranoid like I was screamed at last night after ending a partnership with someone who wants/needs it to be my problem instead of waking up to the problem in all its ugly truth.
"Which is not to be right in a self-satisfied way, but to know we are on the right track to understanding what is happening, and trust in our own feelings and thoughts."
Part of me wants to feel guilty for finding it, but most of me knows that my gut needed me to know... needed the validity to know I wasn't crazy.
Its so difficult to experience the reactions of someone who can't understand that if they had nothing to hide *then* there would be no problem. Secrets hurt more than just the one who lives a life built on a secret.
I'm exhausted, but so grateful to have this forum and the wisdom contained in everyone's voices. Reading "The Mind of a PA" helps me to remember and combat the part of me that wants to deny and go back to the fantasy of that relationship.
As a SO I am now starting life p free for day 1 and from previous experience feel a huge weight lift from my shoulders.
Its so wonderful to know and feel validated that I'm doing the right thing for me and my life.
brulant