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Originally Posted by brokensoul  Maybe its just me but i feel that if you work to control your problem
you don't need the mind photos of outsiders
you can look inside your self |
I'm proud of you, brokensoul. The process takes a lot of courage and guts, I know.
I do know that males can mb without p.... its just that the world has made it soooo easy to see the stuff. Its kind of funny but in actuality this kind of availability has only existed for a very short amount of time.
My father and I were visiting a client of his about 10 years ago and the client had a coffee table book of Chicago on his table. I, having lived and gone to college in Chicago, started talking to him about it since it turned out that he had grown up there. We both remember it fondly and enjoyed reminiscing.
One of his stories was actually of a pimply faced teen age boy who spent his time in hotel lobbies and bars with a pack of girly cards that he'd gotten from a sailor. He was talking to everyone trying to drum up capital for a magazine that he wanted to start. There were no pop magazines at the time... nothing with any graphic images. This friend of my fathers didn't give him any money for that magazine, but he said that if he had he would be incredibly, incredibly wealthy today. That magazine did happen and it gave permission for men to call themselves gentlemen, when prior to that p was sold in secret and it was incredibly difficult to find.
The magazine began in 1953, I think it is, but it was the cornerstone and turning point to everything we see today.
That young pimply faced kid was an introvert who didn't have any female friends let alone relationships. Now he's got multiple young girlfriends... but he's still not really connected to anyone. not really.
So!
This industry proceeded incredibly quickly, but many men, let alone young boys, see an iota of what can be seen easily today.
Try thinking of asking your wife of a photo of her smiling, possibly; nothing lewd or graphic, but something that's *real* and honest.
Maybe that can become something that would help restore intimacy on other levels as well?
Don't know, but what the hell.
A reminder of what brought you together to begin with or a connection with someone who cares enough about you to let you know honestly how much you mean to her for her to not only tell you what she's going through, but also to give you the honest to god truth. That's a wonderful woman and someone who's worth thinking about.
Just a thought.
Be well and take care.
Thanks also for sharing with us.
brulant